Sugar Baby tips for beginners
Gooooooooood afternoon lovely readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to a beautiful Saturday that is bound to get even more beautiful and more exotic as the Goddess has a nice and juicy post in mind for you guys and gals - today I decided to share some beginner tips for every aspiring Sugar Baby out there!
Stick around for today’s post boys and girls - and remember to drop in some lovely cups of coffee for your Goddess to show your appreciation!
The world of sugar dating has exploded in the past decade with the growth of sugar daddy websites and the destigmatization being a sugar baby (in great part due to social media). In fact, Google searches related to sugar dating have grown by 8x in the past 10 years.
Dating older men (or women) and transactional relationships may not suit everyone, but today Seeking Arrangements has 40 million users and counting, so, needless to say, sugar dating is here to stay.
You may think you're ready & dive into the sugar dating experience but if you haven't really assessed where you are in your journey with yourself & in relation to others, you might find yourself learning these hard lessons after the fact. Any & all healthy relationships require emotional intelligence so if you can't answer these questions with yourself, you may not be ready to sugar date.
Do you see any patterns in your previous dating experiences? Because those things may become amplified in a sugar relationship if you aren’t aware.
Sugar relationships tend to move fast. Being aware of the patterns you don’t want to fall back into, is the first step in setting healthy boundaries for yourself.
What’s your relationship with intimacy like with yourself? Are you secure in your power or are you using intimacy as a need for validation?
Your worth is not tied to the monetary value/support someone is willing to provide for you. If you feel the need to prove you're worthy or deserving of more financial support, you may find yourself doing things you’re not comfortable with in order to receive the validation you long for. You need to be so secure in yourself that you can separate yourself from that aspect of the dynamic.
How do you deal with pressure & obligation? Can you say no and communicate your boundaries? Can you speak up for yourself about things that make you uncomfortable?
Just because someone is financially supporting you does not mean you need to comply with everything they want.
Are you comfortable with having uncomfortable conversations?
You really can’t wait for the other person to bring up conversations around money or intimacy boundaries. You have to be pragmatic about having those awkward conversations upfront! I promise it’ll lead to a happier & longer lasting arrangement.
A few years from now, will you be able to speak proudly about this experience or will you feel shame?
Your mindset, intention, & approach will determine the story you tell. You have the choice to create the experience you want. It's in your control & that's what having Agency means.
But girls, the most important thing of all is:
Take Things Slow and Check in With Yourself.
You’ve found a trustworthy sugar dating site, you’ve followed all of my safety tips and vetted the best sugar daddy, and you’re ready for your first meet up (in public)...now what?
Take it slow.
Sugar dating relationships tend to move very quickly, so it’s important to check in with yourself and make sure you’re feeling safe and maintaining your boundaries. If a sugar daddy or sugar momma is not being respectful of the boundaries you set, you have every right to disengage.
Sugar dating should be an empowering experience, so if at any point, it’s not feeling that way, it’s more than okay to pause and take a break. Otherwise, have fun and remember these tips to ensure a successful and safe sugar dating relationships.
That is ittttttttt for today’s post lovely ladies and gents! I hope that you learned a thing or two!
Have a splendid weekend ahead of you, Goddess will catch you all next week,
xxxxxxx
