Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
Goooooooooooooood afternoon lovely readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to this lovely Saturday in the company of your favorite blog writer, today I will be sharing my thoughts about a book that I believe should be an absolute MUST-READ for everyone out there, male or female as it is the single best book about the differences in men’s and women’s way of thinking: I am talking of course about the Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus book by John Gray!
Stick around as without any particular spoilers I will be discussing the book and why it absolutely should be read by anyone out there!
Gray writes how men and women each monitor the amount of give and take in relationships. If the balance shifts, one person feeling they have given more than they have received, resentment can develop. This is a time when only communication can help to bring the relationship back into balance.
According to Gray, women and men are often surprised to find their partners "keep score" at all, or that their scoring methods widely differ.
He says women use a points system which few men are aware of. Each individual act of love gets one point, regardless of magnitude. Men, on the other hand, assign small acts, small expenditures, fewer points. Larger blocks of points (20, 30, 40 points, etc.) go to what they consider bigger expenditures.
The different perception of expenditure can lead to conflict when the man thinks his work has earned him, say, 20 points and deserves corresponding recognition, while the woman has assigned him only 1 point and recognizes him accordingly. The man tends to think he can do one Big Thing for her (scoring 50 points) and not do much else, assuming he has "banked" points and can afford to "coast." The woman should be satisfied with his performance and give him credit for it. Instead, the woman would rather have many little things done for her on a regular basis, because women like to think their men are thinking of them and care for them more constantly.
Less equals more! :D
Another major idea put forth in Gray's book regards the difference in the way the genders react to stress. Gray states that when male tolerance to stressful situations is exceeded, they withdraw temporarily, "retreating into their cave", so to speak. Often, they literally retreat: for example, to the garage, or to go spend time with friends. In their "caves", Gray writes, men are not necessarily focused on the problem at hand. Yet this "time-out" lets them distance themselves from the problem and relax, allowing them to re-examine the problem later from a fresh perspective.
For this reason I absolutely love this book. It goes into great detail about the subtle differences between the every day thinking of men and women - and it really is one-of-a-kind experience.
So next time before you say that it is impossible to think like a woman/man, have the decency to read this absolute masterpiece of a book - it will help you out more than you think! :)
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Have a wonderful weekend ahead of you lovely reading souls, catch you all on Monday,
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