How to talk dirty without feeling awkward

Gooooooood afternoon lovely readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to another day and another blog post courtesy of your favorite Goddess! Over the past few days I have had some questions about dirty talk - and to be honest, I was a bit stunned due to the fact that some people do not use dirty talk because they are afraid it will come out as weird and awkward!

Well today we will be solving that issue for you lovely boys and girls - so sit back, relax and enjoy the read that the Goddess has in mind for you - just how easy it can be to talk dirty without feeling weird!

Fuck me like someone who closes deals.

That is an actual line I actually once said. Verbatim. Out loud. To my Sugar Daddy arrangement. When he was inside me. Why? Because he had just closed a deal at work, so that felt like a good thing to say in the moment. What ensued was the kind of sex I imagine inspires romance novels. But after we were finished, we burst out laughing as we repeated my bold outcry in different accents back and forth to each other.

Beyond being undeniably hot, talking dirty also appeals to our brains, our bodies, and it flips the bird to standards of societal decorum. Furthermore, it introduces an additional sense (hearing) to any sexcapade, which stimulates the brain in a way that goes beyond just touch.

While the language itself and bluntness with which it's delivered is what makes dirty talk arousing, it can still certainly make people feel uncomfortable. But that discomfort is only a reflection of the fact that they lack experience saying things aloud, without a filter, or intentionally to titillate their partner. In other words, practice makes perfect—and the following Goddess tips can help.

1. Keep It Simple

It doesn’t have to be wildly elaborate—just ease into things by saying exactly what's happening or what you want to happen. Start sentences with phrases like “I want” or “I wish”. For example, “I want to feel your lips against my neck” and “I wish I could feel your cock inside me.”

Once that feels comfortable, you can craft phrases that are more elaborate. Think: “I love watching your tits/ass/thighs bouncing right now,” or “I like when your cock/clit/nipples are hard like this.”

2. Sexy Flattery

Flattery will get you… everywhere. Well, at least with folks who enjoy being verbally complimented during sex. Confirm when something feels good or that you’re into what's going on. (Think: “It feels so good when you suck my ear” and “I like it when you touch me there.”)

3. Get Inspired

Perfume commercials, music, movies, books, TV shows—you name it. If its narrative thread is hot as hell, take inspiration from it. For instance, I recently stumbled across the line, “In the rain. In a squat. In an orgy. We meet again” in Rachel Kushner’s The Flamethrowers, and later used a similar line with Helenios. The end result was crazy! :D

4. Engage All Five Senses

Love the way your partner tastes? Tell them. Do the sounds your partner makes arouse you? Whisper in their ear, “I love when you grunt for me.” Relying on all the senses can help provide inspiration to your dirty talk.

Telling your partner where you want to taste and smell them, and how you want to see them can be stimulating. For instance, imagine hearing “I want to taste the inside of your thigh.” Or “I want to memorize the way you smell.” Or “I want to see the way you look bent over that chair.”

5. Ask Away

This is also a great way to incorporate consent into your dirty-talk lingo. Ask things like “Do you like that?” “How does that feel?” “Do you want some more?” ”Do you want me to use my mouth on you?”“Do you want me to X, Y or Z?"

6. Laugh

Don’t worry about sounding silly. It’s not only okay if there’s laughter during sex, it’s great". Sex should be playful. I encourage people to stop putting pressure on sex and dirty talk and just giggle. Because laughter is - alongside sex - really the best medicine out there!

And there you have it boys and girls, a nice, short and sweet blog post that will hopefully help you out in your dirty talk endeavours! :))

Goddess is out for the day, have a glorious Tuesday ahead of you lovely people, catch you all tomorrow!

xxx