How to have a loud and proud sex
Goooooooood afternoon lovely readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to another day and another blog post by your favorite Goddess, today I will be sharing several thoughts of mine that all of you should take note of, as I will be presenting my pleasure-boosting case of loud sex!
Loud and proud as I call it, is the best sex out there arguably - so stick around for today’s post, it will be steamy as the title says - and remember to let the Goddess know your appreciation by dropping in some lovely cups of coffee along the way!
Even though the tides are changing in terms of sex positivity, being outspoken about the pursuit of pleasure isn't necessarily something with which all people are comfortable. Beyond feeling a need to be quiet about sex, many of us feel the need keep quiet during sex, too. Well, friends, it's time to liberate yourselves from that notion because making noise during sex can serve several functions, leading to enhanced orgasms and more satisfying sex.
There is a direct correlation between increasing moans, lowering inhibitions and enhancing arousal. Plus, an authentic moan will naturally open our throats and deepen our breath, which can lead to more powerful orgasms.
Truly, it maximizes your power—and not "power" in an "it’s so empowering" type of way (although that is a part of it). Rather, we're talking about how sound can intensify the event—whether partnered or solo—and your pleasure.
It’s the same concept we see with tennis players who often grunt when they hit a ball off their racket.
Additionally, vocalizing during sex can make a partnered experience more intimate because it can signal pleasure, which can then boost confidence in a partner's performance. Consider it positive reinforcement. Think of our sex noises as a form of communication and the most direct way to let our partners know that what they’re doing feels oh-so good. Nothing says ‘that’s the spot' like an authentic moan of approval, especially in those moments when the blood is rushing away from our head, toward our genitals.
The caveat there is needing to pay attention to how authentic these sounds are. If you or your partner’s sex noises sound performative, they might be phoning it in. It's a good sign that a sound is the real deal if it's coming from within the diaphragm.
So, where do we begin getting loud and proud?
Let's say you're now interested in making noise during sex, but nerves are still holding you back. To help you build the confidence to get louder, I suggest practicing by taking deeper breaths when masturbating. Focus on the exhale, and try to play around with different levels of moans and breath.
Not only will breathing allow you to feel more comfortable, but it also relaxes your pelvic floor muscles, which are responsible for your orgasm.
When you have to think about the noise, it distracts from being present in the moment. The key is to find your own sex voice and avoid trying to mimic something you’ve seen in a movie or porn. If you’re not used to making noise, it’ll never feel authentic for you and might prevent you from even trying.
If volume control is more so the issue, try bringing a pillow into play to muffle super-loud pleasure noises without stifling them. Using a pillow also adds to the excitement of being able to dial up the volume with your noises, but in a secretive way. Fully letting go during sex while making sure you’re being covert adds an adventurous nature to the experience.
And if you really want to take things to the next level, you can also gamify the experience. Create a challenge where you and your partner agree to have a conversation (not inclusive of dirty talk) during sex instead of moaning or screaming.
You two can talk about any random thing so that you can be as loud as you want without bothering your roommates or neighbors with sex noises because they’ll just assume you two are having a regular chat.
Then the person who gives in first and ends up moaning or screaming owes their partner €10 or has to do their chores for the rest of the day.
Honestly, it feels like everyone wins in that scenario. Don’t you agree?
And if you want the Goddess to win as well.. how about dropping some coffees? :))))
That is ittttt for today’s post boys and girls!
I really hope you enjoyed the read.
Goddess is out for the day, have a wonderful Tuesday ahead of you and catch you all tomorrow,
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