How to give her an orgasm
Good morningg fellow readers of the Goddess blog and welcome to another day and another Goddess post! How was your Monday guys? I hope it was every bit exciting and that the trend will continue today as the Goddess will be sharing some fool-proof ways that you guys can use in order to make your lady cum! Stick around for today’s post as it is going to a very, very peculiar read - but before we get into it, I want to share two things with you guys:
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"Did you finish?" Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but if you have to ask a woman if she had an orgasm, odds are she did not. This is especially true if, like the average man, you took between 5 and 7 seven minutes to finish. It takes the average woman around double that time—15 minutes—to orgasm during P-in-V intercourse. It's also worth pointing out that the vast majority of women can't cum from penetration alone; they need external clitoral stimulation, too. All of this contributes to what’s commonly known as the “orgasm gap”: the proven fact that men orgasm during sex significantly more often than women do. Now that you know this, you're probably wondering: how can I make sure a woman orgasms during sex? Maybe it's time to step up your game. After all, you can't keep doing the same exact moves and expect different results. So what can you do to help her reach that peak? Well, Studies show that in order for a woman to achieve orgasm, the part of her brain associated with stress, emotion, and anxiety has to shut down. Translation: if you make a woman feel so good that she completely forgets about everything else, then you're more likely to give her an orgasm. Contrary to your instincts, that might mean not telling her how badly you want her to cum—that kind of pressure can make her even less likely to get there. Of course, every woman is different, so what one woman loves in bed another woman might loathe. That said, there are a few moves that do tend to work—so if your partner is having trouble getting to the finish line, try these tips from the Goddess and see where they take you (and her)! :))
1) Don't race toward her orgasm.
Try to remember the goal of sex is pleasure, and orgasm is one kind of pleasure that is significantly shorter than all the rest of it. If, during sex, you can create a space focused on feeling as good as possible, it may make her more likely to orgasm.
That’s why I recommend slowing down. Take your time with your movements, and don’t focus on the end game. There is a slight irony to it—the more your partner thinks about orgasming, the less likely she will be to orgasm. So switch the focus on just making her feel as good as possible, for as long as possible.
2) Get to know the clitoris.
First things first: the vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, period. When you're having sex, you want to spend as much time stimulating her clitoris as possible.
Some sex positions make it easier to do this than others. I will reveal a trick that I use to do: when a guy is on top of me in the missionary position, I have him shift his body slightly forward so that, every time he thrusts, his penis rubs against my clitoris. This tactic is even more orgasmic if the woman's legs are together and the man's are straddling her. You can achieve the same effect when she's on top by propping yourself up on your elbows, which places your abdomen in closer contact with her clitoris.
3) Pay more attention to her butt.
Unless anal is on the menu, too often a woman's butt is sidelined during sex. And that's a shame, because the buttocks are packed with nerve endings. To give her a surprising jolt of pleasure, spread your fingers wide and squeeze both buttocks.
4) Learn what she likes, and follow her lead.
As I mentioned above, direct clitoral stimulation is the most surefire way to bring many women to orgasm—and oral sex is a pretty good way of going about that. Going down on a woman allows you to get a real sense of the stimulation she likes at every stage of arousal, especially the final one.
To find out more about what she likes and doesn't like, let her take the lead. When you're giving her oral sex, get between her legs and give her a solid base of lips, tongue, and even chin to rub against. At first, use your hands to guide her hips to let her know you want her to do the grinding. When she takes over, note how hard she's pushing and in what direction. Use that information later when using your fingers or mouth to please her.
5) Don't stop kissing her.
Once things get more heated, you might be tempted to focus less on kissing in favor of more X-rated pleasures. But deep kissing is a must for female orgasm. Women are much more likely to reach orgasm if their sexual encounter included a combination of deep kissing, oral sex and genital stimulation.
6) Indulge her fantasies.
Ask her if she has any fantasies that she’d like to explore. Fantasies can increase arousal during a sexual experience. Finding a fantasy that really turns your partner on can add another layer of pleasure during sex that can help take her over the edge. It’s also a way to get her more psychologically aroused, which is just as important (if not more important) than physical arousal.
7) Don't be afraid to talk dirty.
In the heat of the moment, a string of well-chosen four-letter words can work wonders. Test the waters by "complimenting her or talking about how good what she's doing feels. If she responds with "Oh, yeah" or a similarly enthusiastic phrase, she wants more.
If you're hesitant, a simple compliment about how attractive you find your partner will do the trick. You don't have to tell or make pornographic sounds, but saying something specific about me is sexy while we're in bed and it’s kinda perfect.
8) Lube up.
No matter how hot and heavy you guys are getting, without adequate lubrication, it's easy for sex to become uncomfortable or even painful for her. Lubrication increases the comfort and speed with which you can penetrate the vagina and grind against the clitoris. But sometimes, no matter how turned on a woman might be psychologically, she can have trouble getting wet."
And here’s another fun fact: Men who add extra lubrication to their condoms during intercourse tend to last longer in bed, according to research published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Try squirting a few drops of lube onto the end of your penis; then thrust with short, rhythmic strokes while pressing your body against her pubic mound.
9) Focus on her neck.
Our necks are highly responsive touch pads: the skin is thin there, and the blood vessels are close to the surface. So it's not surprising that researchers have found that the neck is one of the best places to stimulate a woman using light touch (so no hickeys, please).
When you're having sex and she's clearly moving toward orgasm, brush your lips from her collarbone to her jaw, then give her neck soft, warm kisses to drive her wild.
10) Break out the toys.
If your partner never hits her high note, no matter now hard you try, it might be time to enlist the help of sex toys. In fact, she’ll probably be more than happy to pull out the Hitachi Magic Wand from her bedside drawer: a lot of ladies use vibrators in order to get an orgasm guys!
Hold the vibrator against her clitoris as you move from one position to another and enjoy the show. Just remember to ask her preferences about pressure and speed: you don't want to start too fast and heavy right off the bat.
11) Ask her what she wants.
This might sound obvious, but asking your partner exactly what makes her hot is the best way to help her orgasm. In fact, people who are more comfortable talking about sex have better sex, because they feel less anxious during intercourse. Discussing her fantasies, preferences, and turn-offs (without judgement) will make her feel more comfortable—which will, in turn, lead to both of you having incredible orgasms.
That is it for today’s steamy post guys! I really hope you guys learned a quick thing or two and are ready to share the knowledge gained with your lady ASAP!
Goddess loves you all and will be back tomorrow with another post,
xxxxx
