How to ace your first date

Helloooooooo dear readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to another weekend with your one and only Goddess, today I will be sharing a very interesting post with you guys - I have gone ahead and composed a list of all of the things that you guys should have in mind if you to want to absolutely ace that first date of yours and woo your partner!

Stick around for today’s post, it will be an enjoyable one for sure - and as always, remember to get the Goddess some nice and lovely cups of coffee along the read! :)

Going on a first date, whether in-person or via Zoom, can feel like walking a tightrope. You’re trying to seem eager without coming on too strong; smart but not condescending; funny but not obnoxious. And there's a lot you have to focus on at once, such as trying to figure out what to say while wondering if you've fully wiped off all that spaghetti sauce from your beard.

All of these pressures are why a lot of guys get nervous on a first date and end up missing their shot at a second one. You don't want that to be you—and the Goddess doesn't want that to be you, either. That's why I will be sharing some tips on how to make your first date less scary, more fun, and super likely to land you date number two.

1. Make it a two-way conversation.

Sure, you have to tell them about yourself, but make sure you’re asking your date questions about their own accomplishments and hobbies. Things can get iffy if you only talk about yourself; it might seem like you’re just waiting for the date to be over so you can get them into bed. If you’re not sure where to start, their job is usually a good bet.

What will impress your date more is seeing that you’re genuinely interested in hearing about them. Active listening goes a long way. Whether it's repeating back what you think you've heard, getting clarification or asking thoughtful questions.

2. Be mindful of touchiness.

You might think that touching them a lot on the first date shows that you’re into them. Not the case. What you’re actually showing is that you’re super-touchy on every first date. Way to make a person feel special, right?

3. Keep the cursing to a minimum.

Some people may love bad boys, but swearing like a sailor doesn’t make you a catch. Cursing gets old very quickly. It makes it look like you’re trying to be cool. You’re a cool dude already. You don’t need to go dropping F-bombs to get that message across.

Curb the cursing habit now, in anticipation of all your future first dates (and job interviews, and other non-sailing situations). It’s too difficult to just turn off a habit for a few hours, so eliminate four-letter words from your everyday vocabulary.

4. Be present in the moment.

You don't need to check those texts right now, no matter how much your friends are LOL-ing at that TikTok someone just shared. Ignoring outside distractions will show your date you're invested in the shared experience and make them feel valued.

It's also good for your own wellbeing to relax and enjoy the time you two have together. Take your time. Slow down. Pause before speaking. Pay attention to your five senses: smell, touch, sight, sound, taste, and savor them. Listen. Breathe. You both deserve to enjoy this time together, even if it turns out, down the road, that you're not compatible.

5. Dress to impress.

We should all take time to look nice for a date. You don’t need to go overboard, but be sure to do the basics: showering, shaving, and spritzing on little cologne.

Wear a simple-yet-polished outfit like dark jeans, a blazer, and loafers, and you’ll look put-together without seeming like you’re trying too hard.

This also applies to a virtual date! No matter what kind of date you’re on, putting in a bit of effort goes a long way.

Trust me Sugar Daddies - a LONG way. :)

6. Offer a polite compliment.

If you start off with some comment on how great their butt looks in those pants, they're not going to be into it. They will be immediately put off. Comments on appearance have to be given with finesse or you’ll start the evening (or end it) on the wrong note.

Stick to more neutral compliments, like You look really nice tonight. If your date doesn't seem to enjoy compliments on their appearance, go for a cool line like ‘‘I can’t get enough of your laugh’’. Everyone likes to know they are appreciated, but you have to be self-aware enough to offer the right phrasing.

7. Humor is your friend.

Joking around with your date is a great way to break the ice. Everyone likes funny guys. Keep it light and flirty.

This shouldn’t be too hard. Find out something you both agree on. For instance, maybe you both think Frasier is a pretentious and terrible show, or absolutely love It's Always Sunny. Joke about that together. Remember that this is a date and enjoying yourselves is important—it isn't a job interview.

8. Remember to have a good time!

Putting pressure on a date to go a certain way takes the fun out of it, and turns it into an obligatory task. Try to have fun, laugh, enjoy each other. At the very least, you can make a friend out of the deal.

And there you have it dear readers - our Friday blog post!

I hope you enjoyed the read and are ready to put some of my tips into good use!

Goddess is out for the day, I will be back tomorrow to finish off the week.

Have a lovely Friday ahead of you,

xxxxx