The begginer’s guide to gentle femdom
Greetings lovely reading souls of the Goddess Blog and welcome to this exquisite Thursday in the company of your lovely Goddess, today I decided to write a beginner’s guide to femdom - for it’s hot, sexy, kinky as hell—and also really nice? :))
A lot of you might be wondering - well, what IS femdom? Think of gentle femdom as female domination without the elements of pain, harsh punishment, or humiliation. It can be sexual, only BDSM-based, or role-based.
Needless to say that today’s article will be an intriguing on dear readers, so fasten your seatbelts and without any further ado, let’s get right into it!
Femdom as a larger umbrella term can refer to domination ranging from gentle to very fierce and intense, depending on the domme (the female spelling of dom) and partner’s interests and limits.
Gentle domming is for everyone, no matter what gender expression or sexuality they identify with. And guys - you don’t have to be a powerful exec to want to be dominated by a woman. There are dudes out there who just want a partner to exercise power over them (and this doesn’t automatically mean it has to include pain or rougher play). If you don’t love the idea of inflicting pain on your partner but do want to play with a power dynamic, this can be a great kink to experiment with!
And of course, there can be a gentle maledom - totally. Just like how there’s mommy play seen in gentle femdom, there’s daddy play in the gentle form of male domming.
Now let’s look into some how-to gentle femdom:
1. Common BDSM Techniques
Common BDSM activities, teasing and denial, sensation play that utilizes different temperatures (think a glass or steel dildo that can get warm or be cooled down to the touch), and leash walking could be used in a gentle femdom dynamic. Role-play is also big!
For nonsexual activities, I suggest starting with pre-date-night activities, like picking out your partner’s clothes for the night, instructing them on how to strip for you, using sex toys on them, or directing them to use toys on you.
2. How To Suggest Femdom To Your Partner
Definitely make sure you talk about it before you just bust into bossing them around - even if it’s not sexual in nature, changing that dynamic can be super jarring and fucked-up to your partner if you don’t both consensually go into it!
If you’ve dabbled with kink play before, I recommend just asking for it up front. You can say, “I heard about this kind of play, do you want to try it with me?” Trying this supersweet version of BDSM might not be as big of a risk as you think.
If you’ve never dabbled in role-play before, you can also try asking, “If we tried role-play, what kinds of roles do you think you’d be into?”
3. Other Tips?
Domination is mostly about control and lack of control. I recommend kicking things off by teasing your partner. Tie them down so they can’t move, and then you can slowly begin to kiss or caress your way around their body and get them worked up. Make them beg for more attention, and have them do so for a while before you give in. Since this type of domination is gentle and nurturing, the only pain they should feel in this activity is the overwhelming torture of wanting to be close to you.
There you have it boys and girls, a nice beginner’s guide into femdom!
Hope you had as much fun reading the post as I had creating it!
Have a glorious Thursday ahead of you, see you all tomorrow,
xoxoxo
