Make any sex position godly with a sex pillow
Top of the morning to you lovely readers of the Goddess blog and welcome to this fine Wednesday in which the Goddess is going to be sharing her thoughts about the marvels of the one and only sex pillow. Stick around as I will be sharing some opinions and tips and tricks about a very popular sex ‘toy’, and as always, remember to let this Goddess feel your appreciation by getting me some nice cups of coffee!
What’s that saying from old church ladies, “The higher the hair, the closer to god”? Well, if you’ve been interested in adding some elevation between the sheets, grabbing a sex pillow (aka sex wedge) may just bring you closer to an, “Oh my god” moment.
According to a 2021 survey of 1,600 people conducted by Dame Labs, the research hub of sexual wellness company Dame, 81% of respondents reported they wanted to find better angles during partnered sex. Further, when asked about the best non-vibrating sex toys, pillows and wedges were rated the highest.
But what exactly are sex pillows?
Sex pillows are accessories that support our bodies in various positions so that we can enjoy sexual play more comfortably. While pillows can be great for people with physical limitations, everyone can benefit from sex pillows.
All bodies deserve — and can use — pillows that help them enjoy longer, more pleasure-focused sexual play sessions. If you think about the ways that you want to connect bodies, much of that relies on angles or holding particular positions. This is exactly what sex pillows can offer!
Sex pillows or wedges are aids that angle your body in positions you would otherwise be exerting yourself to maintain.
Pillows or wedges can be especially useful during solo sex.
What about regular pillows?
All pillows are not built the same. Your standard bed pillow is designed to only hold the weight of your head, not your a*s, your partner’s a*s, and Karen’s’ a*s too!. A sex pillow is usually made of a dense foam and designed in different angle heights. These pillows are specifically designed to enhance all of your sexual positions.
The hallmark of sex pillows, is that they come in different shapes, like wedges or tubes (think sexy foam rollers), encouraging seamless exploration between the sheets. Regular bed pillows are too soft and have to be constantly folded or rolled in search of the perfect angle for a specific position.
Additionally, high-quality sex pillows can be great for people with limited mobility and folks that use wheelchairs.
I have had plenty of SA daddys who do not have the maximum use of the lower half of their bodies, preventing them from ‘pushing back’ against me during sex or the ability to hold their hips up to receive.
As the name implies, sex pillows are literally designed for sex. From waterproof covers to the right firmness, they’re designed for sleeping with someone, not for sleeping.
Yet as a quick Google will show you, sex pillows can quickly vere into the “luxury” category. Dame’s “Pillo” costs $95 and Liberator’s wedges can set you back hundreds (yes plural) of dollars.
Before shelling out for a specialized piece of sex furniture, I suggest thinking about what you’re really looking for in a sex pillow. Just want to experiment with height play? Maybe a $14.99 foam pillow from Ikea would do it. Know you use a lot of lube? A budget vinyl inflatable wedge may have your number, or just add a waterproof case. If you're curious but don't want to commit, you can always DIY it to see if the investment is worth it down the road
How to use a sex pillow?
So, you bucked up and got the expensive sex pillow. Now what? As with all sexy things, it’ll take some time to find what works for you. Play around and see where it feels good. Do you like it under your hips? Maybe you want to lie down on it? If you’re confused about how to use the pillow with a partner, start by using it during solo play to get more comfortable on your own.
Sex pillows can be used to lift the hips of receiving partner, as they’re being entered or penetrated. As the receiving partner lies down, facing up, slide the pillow under their hips, back, and/or butt. This may make the angle of penetration more comfortable, and not burden either body with having to hold an unsustainable position.
You also can lie down on the pillow facing it, enabling easier access to your behind. This can be great for doggy, anal, or any sort of rear stimulation.
Apart from penetrative sex, sex pillows can be great for oral and fingering. Lifting your hips to meet your partner can help you find a position that you both can stay in for a while.
How to introduce a sex pillow to your partner?
Introducing a new toy or position to a partner can feel intimidating. Before you spiral into nervousness, I suggest taking a breath, and remembering that it’s completely “normal” and healthy to want to try different things between the sheets.
When bringing up the pillow to your partner, frame it as something that will help you both experience more fun together, not something to compensate. So often we're taught that if things aren't working perfectly in the bedroom, it's someone's ‘fault’. Make sure that we're not starting the conversation by telling them what's wrong.
Rather than, “You can never get deep enough” or “your legs always give out when you’re going down on me,” I suggest saying something you really love about your sex life and what is working for you, and then framing the pillow as a way to maximize that. Something like, “It feels so good when you’re on top, but sometimes we both have to adjust a bit. I think using a sex pillow would keep us in the moment.”
So get the Goddess those lovely coffees - and go get your partner that lovely pillow! :)))
That is it for today’s post guys! Hope you learned a quick thing or two.
Goddess loves you all, take care lovely and gentle souls
xxxxx
