How to casually slide into someone’s DM
Good morning lovely readers of the Goddess blog and welcome to another month, another week and another Monday with your favorite Goddess! It is already the month of May and I have to say guys, the time has flied over the last couple of months, don’t know about you guys but this Goddess feels that it seems like New Year’s eve was just yesterday! How was your weekend fellow readers? I hope you all had some great fun and you were all stress-free! This Goddess chilled and relaxed for a bit - and yesterday the idea came to me to write about several interesting openings so that you guys can easily slide into someone’s DM, so that is what today’s post is going to be! As always, sit back, relax, enjoy the read, and let’s start this month with a bang - and some coffees too! :)
With a year of social isolation under your belt, it’s tough to hold a conversation with your roommate, much less remember how to slide into someone's DMs. In theory, shooting your shot from a distance should be easy. It’s just a message on social media, after all. But figuring out how, exactly, to break the ice and reach out to a crush is still enough to make your head spin.
It may help take some pressure off if you remind yourself a DM is simply a way to show initial interest. Like dating apps, it's not meant to be used to find out everything about them. It’s just to give them enough of you to make them want to meet up IRL.
To craft the perfect DM, I suggest being casual, confident, and not commenting on someone's appearance — however tempting it may be. Even if they are drop-dead gorgeous, go deeper and try to start a conversation based on things that you are both interested in. Start with a common topic and then transition into other things. Like meeting up for a socially distanced date.
Whether you're reaching out to an old crush or putting the feelers out with somebody new, here are several ways to casually slide into DMs — during a pandemic and always.
1. Your pictures from nature are amazing! What is the best place to go around here?
Want to connect with someone who posts scenic landscapes without saying "I, too, am a nature person”? Leave a question like: "Where's your favorite place to hike?" or "What's your favorite national park?" It’ll start a conversation about all your outdoor passions, but in a low-key way.
2. I LOVE the books you read on your story! What are you reading atm?
If your crush has started a book club, or they generally post about the books they're reading, asking about it can be a great conversation starter. Trade book recommendations, talk about your favorite bookstores, and — if things go well — start a book club of your own.
3. Rollerblading looks like so much fun!
If they've been posting a ton about a new hobby or activity, go ahead and ask about it. If it’s an interest of yours, as well, it’ll offer the perfect opportunity for them to “teach” you, borrow their blades, etc.
4. We’ve been following eachother for a little over a minute, and I wanted to say Hi. So.. Hi!
If you want to break the ice you truly don’t know — especially when can’t decide on a clever opening line — simply let them know that you've been thinking of reaching out and decided there was no time like the present.
5. Your music taste is AWESOME! Let’s swap playlists!
If a picture is worth a thousand words, a song is worth a million. Offering to exchange playlists is a great way to learn more about each other's tastes in music and favorite bands. It’s also something you can come back to time and time again, as you continue getting to know each other better.
6. I am sooo jealous of your cooking skills!
Pointing out something your crush is good at that you are not good at can be a cute/charmingly self-deprecating way to reach out. Here’s hoping they’ll take the hint and invite you over for a cooking class.
7. Your coffee setup is amazing! Where do you get your beans from?
Whether your crush is into brewing iced coffee, or frothing lattes to perfection every single morning, reach out and express interest. Everyone who drinks coffee has a story to tell, whether it’s about their routine, their equipment, or where they get their beans or patrons from.
8. Memes and tik-tok
This one works well if you and your crush have chatted before and you have a good idea what they’re into, humor-wise. Send them something political or a clip from a show you know they watch. It could be in response to a story they shared or completely out of the blue, as a way to say “I’m thinking of you!”
9. Send their recent post and comment something like ‘OMG I was just there!’
Whether they posted about a trail that you walk your dog on or your favorite Italian restaurant, commenting on a recent post is a super low-risk way of reaching out. People comment on stories all the time, so hey! Why can’t it be you?
10. I just have to ask.. How do you make that gorgeous green smothie that you always post?!
Just spotted their third post of the week featuring a delicious smoothie? (Or avocado toast? Or blueberry waffle stack?) Go ahead and ask about it. Even though it’s super casual, this DM will put you on their radar and help build rapport.
That is it for this Monday’s post fellow Goddess blog readers! I really hope you enjoyed the read!
Goddess loves you all and wishes you all a splendid week ahead,
xxx
