How do you ask for a threesome?!

Helloooo and good afternoon lovely readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to this lovely Friday afternoon - it is the weekend and the Goddess has a very interesting and nice read for you guys in mind - today, I will be sharing my opinion about the things that you should know before asking someone if they are interested in a threesome!

Threesomes are a bit of a taboo subject to be asking around these days, but never fear as the Goddess is here to address some of the doubts that might be creeping in you guys and hopefully, help you out in asking that very special someone about joining you in a nice and juicy threesome! :)))

Also, today’s post will be the last for this week as tomorrow and on Sunday I will not be posting due to some personal errands that I have to attend to - so be sure to harness what the Goddess has to say today - and enjoy the read! :)

In my life, I’ve been involved in two threesomes. They happened about six years apart.

The first time was at the end of highschool. When the night came around I was nervous to participate, it took a little while to get going, but the sex ended up being a lot of fun. As a younger girl, the fact that I participated in a threesome used to make me self-conscious but now? I think it’s kind of great. I got to have a threesome and I have that much more experience about my own sexuality. That’s a win all around.

The second occasion was just good timing. I ran into an old friend and his bestie at a bar. I’m not really sure how we all ended up in bed – to the best of my recollection it had something to do with tequila shots and a birthday party – but I do know that when it was all over I felt very grateful for the experience.

So, how do you even approach someone and get them thinking about a threesome? Well, here is the Goddess honest advice about it!

1. Find The Right Person

First thing’s first: if you’re in the position to ask about it, and you and your partner make the decision that you want to move forward there are several different ways you can find a third. Trust me though - it’s all about finding the right person.
I think people can get caught up on an end game. That they go out with the inattention of having a threesome and treat that as a goal rather than considering that there is going to be another actual human being involved. You see tons of couples doing that online, unicorn hunting. It ends up making people feel like a sex object and it rarely works out how people want it to. Instead, I would suggest that it’s something people just keep on the table. Be open to it happening rather than trying to force it.

2. Laugh

Instead of treating threesomes like some kind of prize, I suggest broaching the subject with a third party in the same way you would with your partner.
Find someone you already have a good report with. Maybe that’s a friend you know you can talk sex with. Flirt! Bring up the subject casually without being direct – talk about a threesome you saw on TV or in a movie, chat about porn – and gage their reaction. If you’ve tested the waters and it seems okay, then you can start to push things further. Like anything, the whole thing comes down to communication. It’s okay for it to be awkward. It’s okay for it to be funny. Sex is funny. Use humor before, during, and after.

3. Manage Your Expectations

Being upfront with what you’d like to happen afterward. Yeah, I mean it - it is one of the best things to do when planning a threesome. Just don’t be an asshole. Sometimes a person might want to try this as a fun one-off. They might want to do it every couple of months. They might try it and decide it’s not for them. Or they might want to casually date the two of you. When you keep the lines of communication open and keep it all light, it’s best for everybody.

4. Go Pro

For those who are looking to avoid the potential awkwardness of asking a friend or acquaintance or the potential disaster zone of bringing it up to a relative stranger, there is always the ability to hire a professional. Like the Goddess! :D

While some people might think a sex worker is outside of their comfort zone, it does take away a lot of the bigger what ifs.  It can also be great for someone else to be in control.

That takes some of the pressure off the experience and allows you and your partner to have a bit more fun, which should always be the point. Afterward, you guys simply go out the door and nobody’s feelings get hurt. Easy! :D

5. Getaway Kink

Whether the concept of a threesome is something you and your partner want to go through with, or whether the idea of a third stays a fun hypothetical, broaching the subject can be a kick start to your sex life. Even if the answer is no, threesomes are a pretty accessible and extremely common fantasy and can serve as a gateway to larger conversations about your other kinks or desires. And assuming that the person you’re with now is the person you’re going to be with for the long haul, those are definitely conversations you want to be having. Having trouble getting started? Tequila might help.

And there you have it boys and girls - the last post of the week is done and dusted!

What do you guys think about threesomes? Have you had any interesting stories that you might wanna share? Hit up the comment section bellow, the Goddess is always open for some kinky and nice debates!

Before I conclude today’s post, just a casual reminder that the 8th of March Challenge is open and progressing nicely, 4 Entry Tickets have been purchased already - so be sure not to miss all the fun! Deadline is 9th of March - be sure to grab them Entry Tickets while they’re hot! :)))

Goddess loves you all, catch you all on Monday,

xoxox