Fetishes that are more normal than you think
Hellooooo lovely readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to another Wednesday, a lovely Daddy told me that Wednesday is also hump day - so for today I will be sharing several fetishes that may sound weird - but are actually very cool to have indeed! So stick around for today’s read, enjoy it - and get some coffees for your Goddess while you’re at it!
The mere mention of the word “fantasy” arouses thoughts of threesomes, buxom blondes, and role-playing.
But “fetish”? That just freaks people out.
The reality: A fetish is just a specific type of fantasy—and one that more people have than you probably realize.
Having a fetish doesn’t necessarily mean wanting to wear adult diapers or a furry costume. You just have to find a normally non-sexual object or action arousing—an association you probably formed in childhood. So which “strange” sexual proclivities are most common—and how can you encourage your partner to embrace yours? The Goddess has 5 of them in her mind:
1. Shoe fetish
One in five women are more excited by a new pair of shoes than their sexual partners, according to a new survey by Shoebuy.com. But stilettos as a source of sexual arousal? That’s a mostly male domain. There’s so much eroticized imagery around high heels. They’ve become a symbol of feminine power and aggressiveness—of men’s craving for female dominance. In some cases, though, a shoe fetish may actually indicate a desire to avoid real sexual interaction. It’s a way of indirectly fantasizing about a woman.
Word of advice?
If it’s the whole female-power thing that excites you, ask your girlfriend if you can pick the heels she wears out on date night, then choose the shoes that turn you on the most. And if you hook up afterward, ask her to leave the stilettos on. If it’s the kicks themselves that arouse you—and you have an open-minded partner—do a little show-and-tell with your footwear of choice.
2. Feet fetish
In a recent study of fetishes published in the International Journal of Impotence Research, feet and toes were the body parts most likely to be lusted after. How come? Focusing on the foot is kind of an act of humility—like, I’m only good enough to touch your feet. Or the explanation could be simpler. As a child or young person, that could have been the only part of the person’s body someone had access to. The foot became eroticized.
Word of advice?
The good news: This fetish may not be as freaky to a woman as some others, since the object of desire is still a part of her. A foot is always attached to a woman’s body, while a shoe isn’t necessarily. The easiest way to incorporate your fetish into foreplay: Offer to give your partner a pedicure or foot massage—a proposal that’s culturally considered normal, and therefore, non-threatening. While you give her a rubdown, you can verbally admire her feet if that’s part of your fantasy.
3. Butt fetish
Most men can appreciate a toned backside—think Instagram star Jen Selter—but some have very specific preferences: extra-wide rear ends, say, or super-compact booties. There’s even a name for this: pygophilia. Whereas other fetishes are usually triggered by a childhood event—a learned behavior—this one may be more innate. The human species is naturally attracted to butts. It’s a pretty common object of fantasy for both men and women.
Word of advice?
Since most people can understand an affinity for a nice ass, this fetish is probably most easily integrated into a regular everyday relationship. Simply suggest positions, like doggy style or reverse cowgirl, that allow easy access to her butt—then if she’s cool with it, give that booty a slap.
4. Bondage
Does the idea of being tied up turn you on? Let me guess: You’re a dominating guy outside the bedroom. In sexual fantasies, people seek something they don’t have in reality. If people feel powerful and have an authoritarian position in their job or family, they often seek something very different. Bondage may not seem like a true fetish, but that’s probably just because it’s become more mainstream. It’s pretty accessible. Still, some psychologists argue that act of bondage is simply a convenient forum for often-eroticized objects, like leather. Culturally, leather has a lot of power. It’s a symbol of the bad-boy, motorcycle jacket archetype.
Word of advice?
Don’t break out the hardcore gear in the beginning. I suggest starting with everyday objects, like a necktie or the tie of your robe—things that are relatively non-threatening. Or, if material matters, look for leather restraints that have Velco closures. That way, it’s easier to put on and take off. The last thing you want is someone panicking and not being able to get out.
5. Voyerism
Most guys like to watch people having sex. I think it’s one the reasons why pornography is more popular among men.
Where does the urge to spy on other people doing the deed originate? As kids, most of us were taught that sex is forbidden—a private act that’s only for adults. Taboo and hidden things build curiosity—like, What’s going on behind these closed doors?
Word of advice?
In its most extreme form—say, being a Peeping Tom—voyeurism is obviously illegal. It’s also likely to freak out—or at the very least, intimidate—your partner. But if you’re still dying to share, try suggesting you individually brainstorm ways you could comfortably act it out. Then compare notes. You may find that she’s cool with watching people, or perhaps watching porn together is her limit. You won’t know until you ask.
That is itttt for today’s post guys! Hope you enjoyed the read!
Goddess loves you all, catch you all tomorrow
xxxxx
