Dirty talk can be a game changer
It is quite early today I have to say - but that is also one reason more why you should all be joining me in this fine Tuesday morning in which I am going to share with you the secrets of dirty talking - just how important it can be and how it can be a literal game changer for you and your partner! Join the Goddess for today’s post as I will be getting to the bottom of the dirty talking - and as always guys, remember to get the Goddess some lovely cups of coffee!
Does the thought of your partner saying, "talk dirty to me" send you into a panic? You're not alone if the prospect of dirty talk (beyond "yes" and miscellaneous moans) makes you feel awkward.
Here's some good news to take the pressure off: When it comes to sounding sultry, women can easily sex-up the sound of their voice, while men simply cannot. And if your partner is a woman? Then major congrats: Your dirty talk is about to be hot as hell.
The downside? Just because you have a natural oral ability (hello, raspy bedroom voice!) doesn't mean you know which words will put you both in the mood. And a lot of people have this problem. Because they don't know what to say, they get tripped up.
So, while you can definitely learn how to talk dirty (and this article's got you covered), you also don't need to start throwing around sexy sayings. When it comes to preferences in the bedroom, everyone's likes and dislikes are different and some people (maybe even your partner) might not care for all the erotic chit-chat. There are a myriad of methods for spicing up your sex life and using dirty talk during sex is just one of them.
Now, if you are ready to tap into your inner sexy self and take your bedroom banter up a notch, then look no further than these basic dirty talk guidelines. Oh, and one more thing: Once you learn how to talk dirty, be prepared to arouse your partner like never before.
1. Trigger Words
Chances are, your partner has a specific favorite term for their body parts — as well as for sexual acts, such as intercourse and oral — that turn them on the most. These words are called trigger words since the mere sound of them is often enough to crank up their arousal. Start by sending dirty text messages back and forth. This is a great way to figure out what words they like.
Your line: "I can't wait to see you tonight. Tell me all the places you want me to touch you." They'll use the words they find most erotic in their sexts, helping you fine-tune your bedroom vocab and ultimately learn how to talk dirty in a way that works best for them. And, in turn, they can pick up on what words (and sexy emojis) you prefer as well.
2. I Am Wet
"I'm so wet right now." "I'm about to come." "You feel incredible."
These moment-by-moment updates help you tune into your own arousal — which can be a difficult task — while giving your partner an erotic earful. When you speak about what's happening in your own body, you're bringing awareness to it. On top of that, you're arousing them even more, because they're thinking, ‘Yes! I'm turning them on.' That makes them feel more confident. And that's what you'd call a win-win.
3. No Pressure
"Dirty talk" is perhaps a misnomer, because bedroom banter doesn't have to be crude to be a turn-on. Some people find cursing to be completely un-arousing. The words that turn your partner on might be tender and loving — that can be just as highly arousing. If you're not sure which type of sexy talk they prefer, try alternating sweet phrases (i.e. "I love it when you kiss me") with more risqué ones (i.e. "I want your [body part] inside me"), and see what revs them up the most.
4. One-Word Miracle
When learning how to dirty talk, it's important to remember that, oftentimes, less is more. Trying to string together a full, filthy sentence can actually tamp down your desire since you're inside your head. When I speak with a lot of guys on Seeking Arrangements, the word ‘yes' is consistently one of people's favorite words. Other sexy words that can stand alone: "faster," "harder," and "more." One-word directives let them know they're doing a great job. Think of this simple sexy talk as the verbal equivalent of a moan.
5. Size Is Not Important
If you're dating someone with a penis, know this: Sure, some people love being told their penis is impressive, but for others, hearing about size may remind them of their own insecurities. A better route: Talk about how firm their erection is. Generally, people respond well to hearing how aroused their genitals are.
6. Qualities
Talking about specific sexual acts can be uber intimidating —especially when you're first figuring out how to talk dirty. It's oftentimes easier to talk about attributes or objects — how sexy a piece of underwear is or that you really like their beard stubble. So start with descriptive statements of what turns you on about your partner when you're trying out dirty talk during sex. Most people like to be complimented. Plus, it's almost impossible to flop when you're telling someone how much their body excites you.
7. I Am Going To…
Now, for the more advanced portion of "how to talk dirty 101 Goddess style." Tell your partner about the sexy moves you want to perform. It's easier for women to care-take than to say, 'Here's what I want you to do'". Ease into the dirty sex talk by suggesting a move you've tried in the past that both of you enjoyed. That way, you know they'll receive your proposition positively, which can make you feel more confident taking charge.
That is it for today’s post guys! I hope you loved the read!
Goddess wishes you all a happy Tuesday ahead,
xxxx
