Blowjob tips
Good morning fellow readers of the Goddess blog and welcome to another day that is going to begin with a nice, juicy blog post from your one and only Goddess and for todayyyy’s post I decided to share some of my very own blowjob tips - so guys, you might wanna copy the link to the blog post and paste it to your special lady so that she can learn a quick thing or two from the arsenal of knowledge of the Goddess! And all that this Goddess asks in return fellow gentlemen are some nice cups of coffee.. too good of an offer to turn down, am I right? :)))
Confession: I love giving a partner a good blow job.
I know some women hate performing oral sex on a guy, and I get it—having someone's junk thrusting inside your mouth (and ugh, the annoying head push!) isn't everyone's idea of fun. But to me, there's nothing more empowering and exciting than to have full control of over a penis—and by effect, the man attached to it. Men love blow jobs because the act feels like sex, but it's a very different experience—they get to relax and receive and just enjoy what's happening in front of them.
But like with any sex act, enjoying the experience yourself (which, if you're going to do it, you absolutely should) typically comes from having some level of confidence in yourself—and that comes from knowing what you're doing. So here's how to give the best blow job he'll ever have (I swear)—and making it more pleasurable for yourself in the process:
1. Show enthusiasm about giving him a blow job.
By far the number one rule for giving good head is acting like you want to be giving head.
The biggest complaint I hear from male clients about blow jobs has nothing to do with technique and everything to do with their partner's enthusiasm about it. Men will have a great time if they know their partner is enjoying it.
2. Bring your hands into the mix.
A blow job might count as oral sex, but that doesn't mean your mouth has to do all the work. I like to think of the mouth as providing wetness and your hands as providing tightness.
If your jaw starts to feel sore or tired a few minutes into the job, you're likely suctioning too hard with your mouth. So shift some of the work to your hands, counting on them for pressure.
Here's your basic stroke once you've warmed up a bit:
Wrap your dominant hand around his shaft, then add your mouth.
Connect your hand to your lips—as in, press your index finger and thumb (which are making an O sign) against your lips and keep them sealed there.
Move your hand-plus-lips up and down his penis.
If he's well-endowed (go, girl), you can keep your mouth in one place and move your wet hand up and down separately.
3. Don't be afraid to add spit (lots of it).
During one of the first blow jobs I ever gave (to a guy I'd been dating for five months, so we were super comfortable with each other), my partner told me to spit on him. It freaked me out for a sec—I remember wondering if spitting was some weird fetish—but then realized he just liked it extra wet.
While every man is definitely different and has his own personal preferences, I've found that most agree that a good blow job requires a lot of saliva. You don't want to go overboard to the point that your hand is slipping all over the place, but try to do some **sexy** spitting (read: make it subtle) whenever his penis starts to feel a little dry.
On that note, keep a glass of water nearby to prevent dry mouth—you'll need it.
4. Keep your tongue soft and loose—for the most part.
When you're blowing him, your tongue provides the warmth, texture, and wetness that he can't get elsewhere. To maximize its sensation, Marin suggests keeping your tongue soft in your mouth when you're moving up and down (the majority of your blow job), then using the tip of your tongue to trace the head and frenulum—the underside where the penis head (if circumcised) meets the shaft. Those two areas, especially the frenulum, are packed with nerve endings, so he'll go crazy.
You can also use the flat side of your tongue to lick from the bottom of his shaft to the very tip and down again, or throw in a few tongue flicks. These are more like little garnishes to sprinkle in—and tbh, a little porn-esque, so call on your inner kink.
5. Pretend you're about to say the word purple.
At some point during my writing career as a blogger, I picked up a tip from a sexpert (I wish I could remember who!) that has become my trusty signature move. (I almost hate sharing it, but in the name of better blow jobs for all...)
As you suck on him, try to keep your lips in a slightly fish-face position—pretend you're about to say "purple." The word naturally contorts your lips into the perfect head-giving pout: They're slightly curled and pillowy, which makes them feel wetter and creates ideal suction. You're welcome.
6. Attempt the deep throat—if you like it.
Deep throating—where you take his member so far into your mouth, it's in your throat—is definitely an advanced skill. For two words: gag reflex.
Some women's gag reflex is more easily activated than others, but if you're able to train it—I did by practicing on, no joke, frozen ice pops—you can surprise (and by that, I mean SHOCK) your partner with moments of deep throating. Not only does deep throating feel amazing to them (your throat is obviously tighter than their mouth), but guys also love seeing their entire length somehow fit inside your mouth. (Back to that visual thing that Marin talked about.) A word of caution: Ease into this, and only when you can breathe well through your nose. No penis is worth choking over.
7. Ask him about butt play.
Not all guys like to have their backside touched at all. But some all-caps love it.
If you're into the idea, I suggest asking your partner if he likes having a finger in or around his butt, or if he's ever had anyone try. You'll be able to gauge if he's down to experiment, really wants it, or is hands-down against it. (No judgment either way.) If you're both game, move a finger or two toward his perineum (or "taint")—the area between his scrotum and anus—and go from there. The prostate lies right under the perineum and is known to be the "male G-spot."
The holy trifecta of oral sex is mouth on head, hand on shaft, hand on balls. The holy quad would bring the butt into it.
So there you have it—all the tips you need to give a really, REALLY good blow job. Go try them on your partner ladies and wear your invisible crown with pride. You earned it. And guys.. share the post with your special lady as I am sure that you agree - the Goddess has some very good points in her post today! :))
That is it for today’s read fellow ladies and gents! The Goddess wishes you all a happy day ahead, catch you all tomorrow!
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