7 tips on how to talk dirty
Gooooooooooood morning lovely readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to another day and another post by your favorite writer in the whoooole wide world! Today I will be sharing my 7 tips on how you guys and girls can talk dirty effectively - so be sure to check them all out and remember, if you enjoy the Goddess content, be sure to drop in some lovely coffees for your lovely Goddess along the way!
Beyond being undeniably hot, talking dirty also appeals to our brains, our bodies, and it flips the bird to standards of societal decorum. Furthermore, it introduces an additional sense (hearing) to any sexcapade, which stimulates the brain in a way that goes beyond just touch.
While the language itself and bluntness with which it's delivered is what makes dirty talk arousing, it can still certainly make people feel uncomfortable. But that discomfort is only a reflection of the fact that they lack experience saying things aloud, without a filter, or intentionally to titillate their partner. In other words, practice makes perfect—and the following tips can help.
1. Keep It Simple
It doesn’t have to be wildly elaborate—just ease into things by saying exactly what's happening or what you want to happen. Start sentences with phrases like “I want” or “I wish” . For example, “I want to feel your lips against my neck” and “I wish I could feel your cock inside me.”
Once that feels comfortable, you can craft phrases that are more elaborate. Think: “I love watching your tits/ass/thighs bouncing right now,” or “I like when your cock/clit/nipples are hard like this.”
2. Sexy Flattery
Flattery will get you… everywhere. Well, at least with folks who enjoy being verbally complimented during sex. Confirm when something feels good or that you’re into what's going on. (Think: “It feels so good when you suck my ear” and “I like it when you touch me there.”)
I suggest asking your partner how they like hearing their body described. For instance, do they like being told that that they’re strong, tight, and sexy? Or smooth, juicy, soft, and warm? Or, really, any other adjectives?
3. Get Inspired
Perfume commercials, music, movies, books, TV shows—you name it. If its narrative thread is H-O-T, take inspo from it. For instance, I recently stumbled across the line, “In the rain. In a squat. In an orgy. We meet again” in Rachel Kushner’s The Flamethrowers.
One caveat: If you’re new to the dirty-talk scene, be aware against taking your cues from porn (see: “f**k me like someone who closes deals”). If you and your partner go from silent sex to you saying, ‘I want to be your cum dumpster,’ it might throw off your partner and take them out of the moment.
4. Read Erotica Out Loud
You can even read those extra-steamy scenes from your romance novels to your partner to ease into using naughty lingo. It helps you get more comfortable with the language, and if something does feel awkward, you know the sentiment isn't coming from your imagination, so it's less of an emotional risk.
5. Engage The Five Senses
Love the way your partner tastes? Tell them. Do the sounds your partner makes arouse you? Whisper in their ear, “I love when you grunt for me.” Relying on all the senses can help provide inspiration to your dirty talk.
Telling your partner where you want to taste and smell them, and how you want to see them can be stimulating. For instance, imagine hearing “I want to taste the inside of your thigh.” Or “I want to memorize the way you smell.” Or “I want to see the way you look bent over that chair.”
6. Ask Away
This is also a great way to incorporate consent into your dirty-talk lingo. Ask things like “Do you like that?” “How does that feel?” “Do you want some more?” ”Do you want me to use my mouth on you?”“Do you want me to X, Y or Z?"
7. Laugh!
Don’t worry about sounding silly. It’s not only okay if there’s laughter during sex, it’s great. Sex should be playful. I encourage people to stop putting pressure on sex and dirty talk and just giggle. Laughter is the best medicine after all! Well.. laughter and some coffee! :))))
That is ittttttttt for today’s post ladies and gents! I sincerely hope you enjoyed the read and it refreshed your whole dirty talk stances that you guys and gals have!
Goddess wishes you all a delightful day ahead, much loveeee
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