7 tips on how to dirty-talk
Goooooooood afternoon lovely readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to a pink Monday and a pink beginning of the week with your one and only Goddess!
Since it is Monday and the week should absolutely go off to a flyer of a start, I will be sharing 7 tips on how to properly dirty talk your partner into horny oblivion :))) Be sure to read up what the Goddess has to muster on this fine autumn day - and as always, remember to let the Goddess feel your appreciation by dropping in some lovely cups of coffee along the way!
Fuck me like someone who closes deals.
That is an actual line I actually once said. Verbatim. Out loud. To my sugar daddy. When he was inside me. Why? Because he had just closed a deal at work, so that felt like a good thing to say in the moment. What ensued was the kind of sex I imagine inspires romance novels. But after we were finished, we burst out laughing as we repeated my bold outcry in different accents back and forth to each other.
So many of us find dirty talk to be hot. In fact, research has shown that those who communicate pleasure during sex are more likely to experience sexual satisfaction than those who do not communicate. But outside the bedroom (or kitchen counter, or really wherever the urge strikes), those grunted phrases come across as naughty and awkward in the best of scenarios and filthy and degrading in the worst. So what is it exactly about erotic-leaning chatter that is such a turn-on for so many people?
Beyond being undeniably hot, talking dirty also appeals to our brains, our bodies, and it flips the bird to standards of societal decorum. Furthermore, it introduces an additional sense (hearing) to any sexcapade, which stimulates the brain in a way that goes beyond just touch.
Not sure how to dirty talk? Here are 7 tips to start, Goddess approved!
1. Keep It Simple
It doesn’t have to be wildly elaborate—just ease into things by saying exactly what's happening or what you want to happen. Start sentences with phrases like “I want” or “I wish”. For example, “I want to feel your lips against my neck” and “I wish I could feel your cock inside me.”
2. Flattery.. But Sexy
Flattery will get you… everywhere. Well, at least with folks who enjoy being verbally complimented during sex. Confirm when something feels good or that you’re into what's going on. (Think: “It feels so good when you suck my ear” and “I like it when you touch me there.”)
3. Get Inspired
Perfume commercials, music, movies, books, TV shows—you name it. If its narrative thread is H-O-T, take inspo from it. For instance, I recently stumbled across the line, “In the rain. In a squat. In an orgy. We meet again” in Rachel Kushner’s The Flamethrowers, and later used a similar line with a partner from Seeking Arrangement. The result? Mindblowing orgasms galore :)))
4. Read Erotica
You can even read those extra-steamy scenes from your romance novels to your partner to ease into using naughty lingo. It helps you get more comfortable with the language, and if something does feel awkward, you know the sentiment isn't coming from your imagination, so it's less of an emotional risk.
5. Engage The Five Senses
Love the way your partner tastes? Tell them. Do the sounds your partner makes arouse you? Whisper in their ear, “I love when you grunt for me.” Relying on all the senses can help provide inspiration to your dirty talk.
Telling your partner where you want to taste and smell them, and how you want to see them can be stimulating. For instance, imagine hearing “I want to taste the inside of your thigh.” Or “I want to memorize the way you smell.” Or “I want to see the way you look bent over that chair.”
6. Ask Away
This is also a great way to incorporate consent into your dirty-talk lingo. Ask things like “Do you like that?” “How does that feel?” “Do you want some more?” ”Do you want me to use my mouth on you?”“Do you want me to X, Y or Z?"
7. Laugh
Don’t worry about sounding silly. It’s not only okay if there’s laughter during sex, it’s great. Sex should be playful. I encourage people to stop putting pressure on sex and dirty talk and just giggle.
That is ittttt for this pink Monday blog post lovely ladies and gents!
I hope you guys enjoyed the read.
Goddess wishes you all a perfect week ahead, I will be away tomorrow which means that I will be back to blogging on Wednesday - until then I wish you wonderful days ahead!
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