10 Things Every Woman Wishes You Did During Sex

Helllooooo lovely readers of the Goddess Blog and welcome to another Monday with yours truly! For today I have a special post for you guys in order to get this week off to a brilliant start - I will be sharing 10 things that every lady desires that you do while in bed with her! Stick around for today’s post guys, it is going to be a steamy one, and as always, remember to get the Goddess some nice, delicious sips of coffee along the way!

No matter how into each other you are, relationships will see sex peaks and valleys. It’s easy to fall into a rut or resort to ‘solo time’ during one of those droughts. But let’s kick-start that steam. What’s the best way? It’s simple, try harder. Keep things fun and pleasurable for both of you — in and out of the bedroom — and your relationship may just reach new heights.

1. Pay Attention

Sadly, lots of men don't know how to tune into their female lovers. I hear stories over and over again about how men are just not responding to the signals that women send. Learn to be a responsive, tuned-in lover and you will gain serious appreciation from your partner. Along with verbal expression, pay attention to their bodily cues (moaning, heavier breathing, increased lubrication) and do more of that.  

If you're not sure how to interpret a signal, be direct and just ask. 'Does that feel good?' or 'Do you like that?' or 'Does that hurt?' Your partner may have been too shy to tell you, and will appreciate that you asked. Likewise, if you're not sure if your partner is ready for a certain act or move — ask. To quote the popular university campaign, "consent is sexy."

2. Foreplay

While some men may think sex is mostly about the penetration, a woman needs foreplay and afterplay. If a guy turns over and dozes off, a woman will often feel abandoned. Also worth noting: A woman wants the foreplay to begin way before the act of intercourse, with flirting, texts with sexual innuendoes, and more to warm her up. Sex for a woman is not just sex; it’s a physical and emotional reflection of feeling desired.

3. Exploration

A woman wants a man to explore her inside and out with his fingers, and make it an adventure for the two of them. "Let’s see if I can find your G-spot,' for example, could be a mutual exploration for the couple. Be sure also to fondle with and kiss oft-ignored erogenous zones like her inner thigh, ear, and even her lower back.

4. Dirty Talk

Women want to feel wanted. They want to know they are turning you on, and how. They want to feel hot, desired, appreciated, honored. Individual preferences vary (dirty, descriptive, romantic), but try out different varieties to see what elicits the best response from your partner.

5. Clitoral Simulation

Yes, guys, women want more of it. Some women like it with a finger (or three) in her ass or vagina at the same time. You can also try strong sucking, teasing with your tongue, or using your nose and forehead for pressure on the clitoral area. Try different amounts of pressure, rhythms, and duration of time to see what she likes best (for many women, direct contact on the clitoris can be too intense, although they may like rhythmic pressure on the clitoral shaft — the part of a woman's clitoris that swells when she's aroused).

6. Worship her

A woman wants to be sensually stroked and caressed, not grabbed. One of my clients complains her husband always grabs for her breasts, and she feels like a piece of meat. A woman wants to see adoration for her in her man’s eyes. If a woman feels like your only goal in bed is to make her orgasm, she may feel like your romp has more to do with your ego than anything else.

7. She always comes first guys!

Women have the ability to climax multiple times. And that means that your job as her partner is to make sure that women have more of those orgasms. Many people don’t realize that 70% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. So, yes, you'd be correct in thinking that you can't just rely on penetration alone to get her off. Rather, consider introducing accessories and toys into bed to help you get into that right position or angle, and find what you both like best.

8. Make her feel pretty

It’s more than just when you are naked. Try for no reason at all, saying, "You’re beautiful!" "Unless you’re talking to Angelina Jolie, we all have one phrase in common that we can never hear enough, and that’s, ‘you’re so beautiful!’

9. Be spontaneous

Women like surprises, especially the sexy kind. Surprising your girlfriend or wife or Sugar Baby with something that shows you care about her while also showing how sexy you think she is can win you major points. Some ideas beyond lingerie: knee high socks, a silk robe, or a racy nightgown. When a woman knows you bought something for her while thinking of how hot she’d look in it, it also may inspire her to be a little more adventurous next time she finds herself shopping for naughty underthings.

10. Pay attention outside sex

A woman wants to know a guy is going out of his way for her. It could be a little trinket he picked up because she was on his mind, or a bouquet of flowers he took the time to get. When a guy proves he cares, a woman’s body will be putty in his hands. Showing that you're a caring listener is also key. A woman wants to know a man is truly listening to what she’s saying. Listening proves a woman is important enough to a guy for him to want to know what’s on her mind.

That is it for today’s post ladies and gents! I hope you will take the Goddess words to heart and go out and win your girl the proper way! :D

Goddess loves you all, have a wonderful start to the week and catch you all tomorrow!

xxx